Couples Counseling IN VALENCIA, CA

Therapy for couples stuck in conflict, disconnection, or crisis. Sessions available in-person and online.

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“We love each other, but we’re exhausted from fighting all the time.”

“Sometimes I wonder if we’re better off apart.”

“I miss how we used to be.”

“We can’t seem to get through to each other anymore.”

Many couples come to therapy because they keep getting stuck in a predictable, painful cycle that neither of them knows how to stop. You argue about the dishes, or the kids, or who’s never listening… and even though things aren’t always bad, when they are, they’re really bad.

Underneath, it’s usually about something much deeper: the need to feel seen, supported, and safe with the person who matters most. The cycle often starts with a reach—a want for closeness or connection—but something gets lost in translation. Instead of feeling understood, you both end up feeling hurt, frustrated, or alone. I can help you identify those patterns, understand what’s really happening, and build a new way forward together.

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You might be experiencing:

  • The same kind of argument on repeat

  • Distance, silence, or disconnection that feels harder to break

  • Lack of intimacy or emotional closeness

  • Resentment, hopelessness, or deep grief from a betrayal

  • Constant criticism or defensiveness that escalates quickly

  • The pain of one partner reaching out and the other pulling away

Your story and your pain matter. So does the relationship that brought you here.

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HOW I CAN HELP

​​I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), a deeply researched, attachment-based method that helps couples break out of their negative cycle and reconnect emotionally.

I’m also a trauma-informed therapist, so I bring that lens into our work—helping you understand how past experiences or attachment wounds may be influencing present patterns. We don’t just tackle surface issues—we go deeper, into the emotions and needs underneath. This is where the real change happens.

In our first few sessions, I’ll meet with you together to get a clear picture of what’s going on and make sure you both feel safe, respected, and heard. Then I’ll meet with each of you individually to learn more about your background, your relationship history, and what matters most to you. From there, we’ll begin mapping out your cycle—what triggers it, what it feels like for each of you, and how it’s keeping you apart.

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As we continue our work together, we’ll focus on:

  • Helping you improve communication by slowing things down and getting to the heart of what you’re really trying to say

  • Rebuilding emotional safety so you can start to feel like teammates again

  • Understanding how past wounds or attachment histories may be showing up in the present

  • Practicing new ways of reaching for and responding to each other

  • Healing ruptures—like betrayal or broken trust—when they’ve happened

  • Strengthening your bond so you can handle hard moments with more ease and empathy

When you understand what’s really happening between you, a new space opens up: where you can fight less, embrace vulnerability, and enjoy each other again.

Couples therapy can help you…

  • Understand why you keep having the same fight—and how to stop it.

  • Rebuild trust after something hard or painful has happened.

  • Feel more connected, supported, and safe with each other again.

  • Get out of the blame game and back on the same team.

  • Figure out if—and how—you want to move forward, together.

  • Learn how to talk (and actually hear each other) without shutting down or blowing up.

You’re not failing. You’re just stuck in a cycle. And cycles can be changed.

FAQS

  • Yes. Trauma affects relationships in powerful and sometimes confusing ways, even if it’s not shared. My trauma-informed approach means we’ll explore those patterns together, with care and understanding for both partners.

  • Yes. I’ve helped many couples navigate the pain of betrayal and work toward healing. Repair is possible, and we’ll move carefully, at your pace, with the structure and support needed to rebuild trust and understanding.

  • Couples therapy isn’t just for major problems. Sometimes feeling distant or stuck is reason enough to reach out. This work can help you reconnect, understand each other more deeply, and feel close again—even if things aren’t “falling apart.”

  • You’re not alone—many couples come to me after trying therapy before without success. With years of experience supporting couples through everything from disconnection to deep rupture, I bring both skill and steadiness to this work. I use EFCT, a method that focuses on your emotional bond. I also stay deeply engaged throughout our sessions. This is active, collaborative work—and I’ll be right there with you, helping you find your way forward, no matter what it looks like for you.

  • Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a research-backed approach that helps couples move away from conflict and into connection. It’s based on the idea that when we feel disconnected from our partner, we tend to get stuck in painful patterns—not because we don’t care, but because we’re trying (and struggling) to get our needs met. EFCT helps each partner better understand what’s really going on underneath the arguments or silence, so you can start to respond to each other in new, more supportive ways.

    It’s one of the most effective forms of couples therapy available, with research showing that over 90% of couples see significant improvement in their relationship. That means real change is possible—even if things feel stuck right now.